Mr. Na Speaks Out on 'Love After Divorce' Bullying Controversy
Mr. Na, who became a final couple with Ok-soon from season 24 on 'Love After Divorce (I am Solo: Love is Back),' has sparked controversy by posting a lengthy message blaming Ok-soon from season 23 for the alleged bullying controversy involving the female cast members. On October 21st, Mr. Na directly criticized Ok-soon from season 23 on his social media, stating, "Everyone may have their own reasons. However, it should not be framed as group bullying or ostracism."
"Ended it ambiguously and messily."
Mr. Na posted a lengthy message on his account on the 21st.
"After the last broadcast, some cast members are receiving a lot of criticism."
"I am trying to step forward because the younger cast members I formed relationships with are having a hard time due to excessive personal attacks and personal messages that make daily life difficult."
Mr. Na stated that he came forward to defend the female cast members who are being criticized.
And he strongly criticized Ok-soon from season 23.
"If she wanted to end with her image being portrayed positively, loved, and adored, she should have enjoyed and accepted it appropriately and ended the live broadcast with a smile, even if that wasn't her true feeling. Instead, she ended it ambiguously and messily, making herself the tragic heroine and others the bad guys."
The criticism is that she should have ended it well, but she ended it ambiguously and messily, making herself the victim and other cast members the perpetrators.
"I was even blocked."
Mr. Na revealed that Ok-soon from season 23 even blocked him.
"I wonder if she has become so engrossed in the image shown on the broadcast and consumed by the support and encouragement of netizens that she genuinely believes she was suppressed and bullied. She even blocked me, even though we had maintained a relatively good relationship."
The criticism is that she seems to genuinely believe the edited version shown on the broadcast and, intoxicated by the support of netizens, mistakenly believes she was bullied.
Mr. Na revealed in detail the past conflict between Ok-soon from season 23 and Soon-ja from season 23.
"She (Ok-soon from season 23) and Soon-ja from season 23 had a strained relationship even before appearing on 'Love After Divorce.'"
"At the time, she, knowing that Soon-ja from season 23 was dating Young-chul from season 23, called Young-chul from season 23 directly to confirm, asking, 'When did you break up? Did you really break up?'"
"From the self-introduction time, whenever Soon-ja from season 23 talked about her ideal type, she would constantly mention her ex-boyfriend in front of other cast members, saying, 'Isn't that Young-chul from our season?', 'Don't you like him because he's like Young-chul?', 'You have someone in mind right now,' embarrassing Soon-ja from season 23."
The claim is that Ok-soon from season 23 and Soon-ja from season 23 were not on good terms even before the show, and Ok-soon from season 23 actually acted in a way that embarrassed Soon-ja from season 23.
"Deprived of conversation opportunities."
Mr. Na pointed out that Ok-soon from season 23 spent a long time talking with several male cast members, depriving other cast members of opportunities.
"During the broadcast filming, she occasionally spent a long time talking with some male cast members. They spent basically 2-3 hours talking, and I think there is definitely a part where other cast members felt deprived of the opportunity to talk because of this."
"From the perspective of other cast members who need to choose and focus because if she quickly focuses on her choice and moves forward, other cast members can also form their own love lines and make progress." There was dissatisfaction.
The explanation is that other cast members could have been dissatisfied because Ok-soon from season 23 spent time talking with several people at the same time, when they needed to choose and focus quickly in the short period of 3 nights and 4 days so that other cast members could also create their own love lines.
"Requested editing to delete remarks disparaging Ok-soon from season 24."
Mr. Na continued with shocking revelations.
"During a conversation with a male cast member, she made remarks disparaging Ok-soon from season 24, and after the conversation, she requested that the part be edited out, and in fact, the broadcast did not show her having such a conversation."
The claim is that Ok-soon from season 23 made remarks disparaging Ok-soon from season 24, but it was not aired due to an editing request.
On the other hand, other cast members could not make such requests.
"Rather, other cast members, who didn't even think of such a request, were only whispering to each other in scenes that appeared to be badmouthing someone in front of them, but in the part that was aired, the audio was amplified to make it seem like they were pressuring her from the side."
He pointed out the contrasting situation where other cast members whispered in low voices but the audio was amplified in the broadcast to make it seem like they were pressuring her, while Ok-soon from season 23 had her disparaging remarks deleted through an editing request.
"Not bullying... Do you have to be close to someone you don't like?"
Mr. Na denied the bullying controversy itself.
"Is it possible for people who have continued social life and have eaten their age to bully and harass someone for that short period of 3 nights and 4 days?"
"Conversely, do you have to force yourself to be close to someone you don't like?"
"Cast members also have their own preferences for each other. Just like friends have closer friends and less close friends, that's how it was formed between the cast members during filming."
"Is that bullying?"
The claim is that adults cannot create bullying during a short filming period, it is natural to have preferences for each other, and this is not bullying.
"You cheered that it was satisfying when Ok-soon from season 24 was rebuked and criticized by the cast members, so why is the standard applied differently?"
He criticized the double standard of saying it was satisfying when Ok-soon from season 24 was criticized, but calling it bullying when Ok-soon from season 23 was ostracized.
"If she was really bullied, is it possible to take a commemorative photo together with the cast members at the end of filming, smiling together? Is it possible to come to gatherings separately after filming?"
The logic is that it would be impossible to take commemorative photos together and attend gatherings if she was really bullied.
"Couldn't remain silent."
Mr. Na repeatedly emphasized the reason he came forward.
"It would have been good if it had ended at a level where she appropriately enjoyed and savored the joy of the winner, but I couldn't remain silent any longer at the sight of her causing harm to even the cast members who had a good relationship with her and pretending not to know."
"I am speaking out because I know that if I remain silent in the face of injustice, there will be no one left to speak for me in the end."
The reason is that he opened his mouth because he could no longer stand by and watch Ok-soon from season 23 not ending appropriately and causing harm to other cast members.
Mr. Na was the final couple with Ok-soon from season 24 on ENA·SBS Plus 'Love After Divorce'. However, he stated the following on the live broadcast conducted immediately after the broadcast.
"We met personally, but due to differences in thinking, we are now in a good brother-sister relationship."
He did not become a couple with Ok-soon from season 24 and remained in a brother-sister relationship.
Born in 1983, Mr. Na graduated from Korea University with a degree in sociology and is known to be working in bond trading and brokerage at a securities firm in Yeouido.
Key Points of Controversy
The controversy has become more complicated due to Mr. Na's lengthy statement. The key points are summarized as follows:
Mr. Na's claim:
Ok-soon from season 23 ended it ambiguously and messily
The relationship with Soon-ja from season 23 was not good even before the show
Ok-soon from season 23 rather embarrassed Soon-ja from season 23
Deprived other cast members of opportunities by talking with several men for a long time
Requested editing after making remarks disparaging Ok-soon from season 24
Not bullying, but natural preferences
Came forward because other cast members are being criticized too much
Ok-soon from season 23's position:
Was bullied by female cast members
Felt alienated
Had a hard time as shown on the broadcast
What is the truth?
If Mr. Na's claim is true, Ok-soon from season 23 was made to look like a victim through editing, and other cast members are rather in an unfair situation.
Conversely, if Ok-soon from season 23's position is correct, Mr. Na may have exaggerated or distorted it to defend other cast members.
However, the fact that Mr. Na wrote a lengthy article with specific examples seems to carry some weight. In particular, the claims that Ok-soon from season 23 disparaged Ok-soon from season 24 and requested editing, and the past conflict with Soon-ja from season 23, are contents that can be fact-checked.
Limitations of Romance Reality
This controversy shows the limitations of romance reality programs. Depending on the editing, someone can be seen as a victim and someone as a perpetrator.
In the process of compressing 3 nights and 4 days of filming into a few hours, the context disappears, only certain scenes are highlighted, and misunderstandings can arise.
As Mr. Na said, "whispering in a small voice" can be edited to look like "pressuring by amplifying the audio," and some scenes can be deleted and some scenes can be broadcast as they are through editing requests.
The Pain of the Cast Members
What is certain is that the cast members are suffering. As Mr. Na said, there are cast members who are "having a hard time receiving personal messages to the point where daily life is difficult."
Conversely, Ok-soon from season 23 must have been hurt by the bullying controversy as well.
If you have to go through this pain as a price for appearing in a romance reality show, I wonder if such a program is necessary.
Whatever the truth is, I hope the cast members will no longer suffer.
Source :https://blog.naver.com/roadtowrestling
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